Indian culture is the oldest and richest in terms of traditions, customs, values, beliefs, family, spirituality, love and affection. It has strong base in people life in our country. Indian culture, is more understood from the Epics & writings in the form of Poems, plays, Vedas, stories and even self-guide. Epics are written in order to highlight human values of sacrifice, loyalty, devotion and truth. Some of the teachings and values are imparted from ages in Hindu culture through the way of life, teachings from their family and elders. In Indian culture Mother forms the center pillar imparting values and ethics to their children.
People today celebrate Mothers day but as per Hindu mythology and customs, every day was a mothers day, as she was respected next to God or equated with God by the children in their own way. Family ethics were always linked to the teachings and morals taught by Mother. Here education was never a necessity but common sense which always prevailed. Today’s dwindling values in Indian families can be attributed to materialistic lives, non ethical and zero value based British education system which concentrates more on bookish knowledge than real intellectualism.
“Shyam’s mother” is an autobiography of sane Guruji who was freedom fighter, social activist and writer belonging to konkan region of rural Maharastra during British Raj. The content of the book is no less than any religious book like “Geeta”, “Quran or Bible”. The book is about Sane Guruji’s childhood and reminiscence of his late mother Yashoda who imbibed truth, compassion, kindness and values in his mind with her teachings. Despite the poverty, Saneguruji’s mother nurtured her kids to create great nationalists. She taught lessons of life to her children and love towards country in unique way. She was gentle and when needed strict, she did her best to instill the values of truth, integrity, right living and fairness on the tender mind of Shyam.
She used to tell her children that they may be poor but should always be rich in mind. When she bathes her younger son, she tells him that it is more important to clean the dirt in one’s mind than the dirt in the feet. She was telling shyam that never feel ashamed of doing your mother’s work. Consider it as God’s work. Be ashamed of committing sin. Shyam’s mother used force & made him to go for swim, when he resisted to go for swimming with his friends. She wanted her son not to become a coward. This small incident of Shyam converts him into courageous person. She was telling stories of distant sister of lord Krishna i.e Subhadra tears of her costly saree to use as a bandage on the wounds of lord Krishna to realize her children the relationship of brother and sister & importance of love. When shyam plucks buds from flowering plant to offer those to God, her mother explains not to separate buds from plant. It requires watering through mother-plant only to bloom properly. She taught her kids to be sensitive and sensible when it is required. She also taught them to love everyone equally and help others. Sane Guruji’s mother taught her children values of life and positive vision through simple incidents and happenings in day to day life.
Indian scriptures, writings narrate mother as first teacher in human life. It is said that serving the mother is rewarded for serving all the Gods. Mothers in India have always shown exceptional courage during difficult situations or have shown uncommon strength and character even in the most demanding situations in imparting values to their children.
It is said that child learns when he is in the “womb” of his mother. That is why in our Indian culture, mothers read good books when they are pregnant to inbuilt good values to their kids. Abhimanyu, the son of Arjuna and Subhadra learns “Chakravyuha” i.e. War techniques when he was in the “Womb” of his mother.
During the Vedic age, children were sent to Gurukul, where they were taught various subjects and how to live a cultured and disciplined life. The main focus of Gurukul’s was on imparting learning to the students in a natural way, where the students lived with each other with brotherhood, humanity, love and discipline. Such schools were of great importance in the ancient history of India. Along with essential teachings in main subjects like science, mathematics, focus was also given on activities such as Yoga, meditation, mantra chanting etc which generated positivism and peace of mind and made them fit.
As per our Hindu mythology, mother imparts values to her children. In a temple, the space where a god’s idol is kept inside the “Garbha Griha”. Garbha means womb. In Hinduism, a temple itself has been seen as a woman, a mother who inspires and place of teachings for many. Spiritually, Prakriti or Nature is everyone’s mother. Prakruti or Nature has given birth to Sanskriti i.e. culture. In Tantra parampara, where goddess is given a lot of importance, the stories and folk tales speak of how there was only a devi/prakruti called Adi Maya Shakti which marks the beginnings of life.
Motherhood is the way of life in Indian culture. Home is the place where a kid’s education starts and his personality is shaped in real sense. Kids imitate their parents and hence parents need to be careful in grooming their off-spring. If parents are benevolent, kids also become so. If parents are violent, kids grasp that violent trait of personality automatically. Home is a place where negative influence of external factors can be controlled or countered with positive things that help in shaping good and strong personality of a child.
In today’s world, youngsters are taught to live life on their own terms. Children are exposed to so many senseless and negative forms of life these days. Teachings of Shyam’s mother is mostly needed now, than before as it imparts more values than bookish knowledge. Schools and parents must encourage and provide value and ethical based education, rather than just running behind scores and numbers. The true goal of life is achieved when our future generations are technologically, ethically and morally sound.
“A person may be the greatest in his career, but certainly a beggar if he disowns & disrespect his/her mother”